We wont know until we do it, but right now we're stuck focusing intently on what is, and the story we've created about it which involves us hating or not being happy about what's happening. Yes, life can seem unfair. yes we can be mistreated, let down, lied to, betrayed. We can be sad for what's been lost to time, for what wasn't to be, and for what will never be. And we can be scared of what's yet to come.
We might think we think this way because life has made us, they have made us, but what if it's the other way around? We have made life the way it is, and attracted them the way they are because we've thought them all into existence. We have aligned with the people and experiences that match our consistent thoughts, about never getting what we want in life, or about life being so hard, people being so untrustworthy, money being so tight.
Yes, it's true we were programmed how to think, conditioned into repeating the same limiting beliefs and thought patterns as our parents, and their parents, and that's why it's not our fault. We were too young to know or do different. BUT from here on in, what we choose to keep thinking and believing, that's our responsibility. We have to make it so.
We can start by letting go of the need to blame. Because it's nobody's fault. That's not what this is about. And it's the blame game that keeps us asleep to what it really is about. Waking up. Becoming consciousness. Taking back our power. The truth is that the people and experiences in our lives that caused us hurt, held us back or created chaos or drama are actually the very juice required to expand our desire for more and shake us awake. We actually attracted them for that purpose. Like us they're stuck in the same cycle of beliefs and thoughts, they too are unconscious and that's why they came into our field in the first place. Because they align with the negative beliefs we hold and by reflecting them back to us they give us the best chance of waking up and realizing that we are the co-creators. Not the victims.
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